Love vs. Lust

Love vs. Lust

Feb 2013 By Megan Dusson


The source of many women’s squeals in weekly book club meetings, romance novels have become one of popular literature’s most talked about genres. For many women, there is nothing more exciting than a damsel in distress being swept off her feet by a tall, dark, and handsome stranger. For others, years of genuine love and tender compassion with that one special person are what it truly takes for two hearts to fall into an everlasting love and friendship.


          Everybody has their own one-true-love story, and if they don’t, they have their wishes and hopes for what their future love life will entail. With the media playing such an influential role in our society, we can’t help but ask ourselves if literature is persuading our perception of relationships and what we want out of love and our significant others.


          Are love and lust stories shaping our expectations of what we want in a long-term relationship? Or better yet, are they helping us determine what we want in the bedroom? When we were younger, kissing a frog that turned into a charming prince who would then whisk you away to his castle of riches, was one of the fantasies that we prayed would one day become real. Today, we strive to find the most genuine affection in men because we grew up with the idea that the prince always saves the princess, however in this era, it’s not likely to happen.  So we resort back to our youth, our imaginations, our “dreams”, and turn to what we are most comfortable with: fantasies.



We all use our imaginations to create in our minds what we can’t feel in our hearts. So what do you prefer? Mid-afternoon canoe rides through a lake of nestled swans, or fast cars, busy cities and bedrooms with mirrored ceilings and leather details. Whatever your ideal may be, from vampires to superheroes, there is a book in this world that will let you escape from your love life and re-awaken your senses to something as genuine as words on a piece of paper- words that not only fill the pages, but fill your craving for your life of love and lust, at least until you’re content with what you have.


Books we recommend for love:


  • Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen
  • Gone with the Wind by Margaret Mitchell
  • Nicholas Sparks…any one of his books will work


Books we recommend for lust:


  • 50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James
  • Twilight by Stephanie Meyer
  • Sex and the City by Candace Bushnell